We all have conflict and drama in our lives. Some of it is real; some of it is exaggerated or even imaginary. Yes, conflict and drama do exist but it is up to us how we handle it. We all have wolves within that fight over control of our emotions but we control which wolf we feed.

You need to ask yourself is it worth the strain and stress it puts on you and your relationships. What caused the conflict or anger? Were you a victim or the aggressor? Were you the fire extinguisher or the match?

Our goal should be to live in harmony, the whole do unto others theory.  We are not born angry people, we allow ourselves to become that way. We feel sorry for ourselves when things are not going our way. We strike out unfairly at those around us. We knock others down so that we can feel raised up.

Have you had an injustice forced upon you? Was it intentional, real or was it your perception? Did someone make you angry or hurt you? How did you feel and what action did you take?

You need to put these things into perspective.

Here is your exercise for today:

• List 3 people who you feel did you an injustice
• List the perceived injustices
• Assign a number between 1 and 10 to each
• 10 being the highest, it will negatively affect you for the rest of your life
• Think about how much time, attention and energy you have wasted on this
• Is it worth it?

Time on this earth is short. We are all like milk, we have an expiration date. Do you really want to spend that time on situations that don’t really matter?

This is an old Cherokee Folk story that is well worth reading:

An old Grandfather said to his grandson, who came to him with anger at a friend who had done him an injustice, “Let me tell you a story.

I too, at times, have felt a great hate for those that have taken so much, with no sorrow for what they do.

But hate wears you down, and does not hurt your enemy. It is like taking poison and wishing your enemy would die. I have struggled with these feelings many times.” He continued, “It is as if there are two wolves inside me. One is good and does no harm. He lives in harmony with all around him, and does not take offense when no offense was intended. He will only fight when it is right to do so, and in the right way.

But the other wolf, ah! He is full of anger. The littlest thing will set him into a fit of temper. He fights everyone, all the time, for no reason. He cannot think because his anger and hate are so great. It is helpless anger, for his anger will change nothing.

Sometimes, it is hard to live with these two wolves inside me, for both of them try to dominate my spirit.”

The boy looked intently into his Grandfather’s eyes and asked, “Which one wins, Grandfather?”

The Grandfather smiled and quietly said, “The one I feed.”

So my question to you is which one are you feeding?