Be Happy and Be Powerful!

What makes you perform at your peak? What makes you happy? You are at your best and perform with peak efficiency when you are happy in what you are doing!

Think about what makes you happy. Is it baking, running or reading, even work perhaps?

I am not a runner but you hear runners talk about getting” in the zone”. They just run. The adrenalin kicks in and they only things they focus on are running, their time and their style.

Have you ever gotten so absorbed in a book you couldn’t put it down? You read and read turning page after page. You are completely committed to that book. Suddenly hours have gone by. That is being in the moment!

You will have happiness and power when you focus on doing what you are doing when you are doing it. Say that 3 times fast!

When you drive a car while thinking about other things like work, the baseball game, what you have to get from the store, your reaction time is slower. You fail to see potential problems and you are more likely to have or cause an accident. Inattention is the primary cause of auto accidents. There is no auto pilot on your vehicle.

Daydreams and distractions ruin your job performance. You try to go on auto pilot, do things out of habit or routine; you lack joy, make mistakes and therefore do not have power. Because you are not giving your best, you produce less and what you do produce is not up to the standards that you are capable of.

The ability to devote 100% of your attention to a task is difficult, at first. Yet when you start to live your life in the immediate present, in this exact moment of time, with little or no attention on the past or future, you feel more alive, happier, more productive and more powerful. You have taken control of yourself and your destiny.

Imagine being able to focus all of your attention on everything you do as you do it, when you do it. This is happiness! This is power!

Staying in present time, in the moment unleashes extra amounts of natural ability. For example, just before you leave on a vacation, you on specific things you need to accomplish and quickly get them done. When you only daydream about a vacation, you slow down and become less effective.

Imagine how much more effective and productive your conversations would be if you stayed in the present. People would feel you understand them better when you are doing nothing but listening, with no other thought in mind.

The stronger your focus is, the greater your happiness and the greater your power!

Practice doing what you are doing when you are doing it and nothing else in all your activities.

Here are some suggestions:

Do a simple task at your desk such as clear off some paper or write a note. Do this right now. Do absolutely nothing else when doing it. Concentrate on clearing the paper not just pushing it to another pile. Concentrate on writing the note focusing on your penmanship, on the content. Practice this until your attention is more in the present than ever before.

The next time you are talking to someone, give him or her 100% of your attention. Think of nothing outside of the conversation. Focus on the person, the topic and the issue. Notice the person’s reaction. Notice the surprise and the appreciation they have for your attention.

Have you ever driven your car someplace and when you got to where you are going you realize you have no idea how you got there? What did you see along the way, what lights were red, what was the name of the road you turned onto? We don’t know these things because we weren’t focused on driving, we weren’t in the moment. The next time you drive your car; do what you are doing when you are doing it. Don’t listen to the radio, don’t talk on your cell phone and certainly don’t text, don’t eat a snack, don’t think about work or do anything besides drive. Extend your focus all around your car. Notice how alive you feel, in more ways than one!

At your job, spend a complete hour doing absolutely nothing but work. Nothing but work for a whole hour. A strange concept for some! Do exactly what you are doing when you are doing it. Ignore other thoughts, other acts and other tasks. Take no breaks. No miscellaneous conversations, no Facebook, no phone calls to your friends. Do nothing but work. How much more productive will you be?

Here’s a power tip from Lao-tzu, “He who controls others may be powerful, but he who has mastered himself is mightier still.”

Have you mastered yourself? Doing what you love makes you productive, happy and powerful!

Are you happy with your relationship, your friends, your hobbies and your career? If not perhaps it is time you take control and make changes. You cannot be happy or powerful, you cannot achieve your greatness unless you are happy, and happy with yourself and your environment.

Don’t be too surprised when you learn how powerful you can be just by being happy and in the moment!

Your Swimming Pool, Your Life

It’s HOT! Summer is fast approaching and here in Chicago it already hit 90 degrees. With Memorial Day weekend upon us it is time to open up the pools!

Wouldn’t you like to have a swimming pool? Just imagine clear, clean fresh water, a relaxing and enjoyable place for you to unwind. You want your pool to be a happy place. Sometimes you want to be in the pool alone just to think, being relaxed and float around on your raft. Sometimes you want to invite friends or family, maybe just a few or maybe a lot.

Guess what? You have a pool and it’s called your life! All the energy that is all around you, that makes up your reality, is water in your pool. Your goal in life is to be happy; not content or satisfied but happy. Sometimes being happy means your pool is peaceful and quiet, no drama, no ripples or waves just calm. Sometimes being happy means splashing about, loud music, and lots of friends sharing your pool.

Think about all of the people in your pool, your life. Some you like and some you love and some you don’t really care for that much like certain relatives or co-workers but you are stuck with them. Many of these people respect your pool, know when you want calm or you want waves, but others are not so respectful. These people will insist on doing a cannonball and knocking you off your float!

You can control who swims in your pool. You don’t have to allow everyone you meet into your pool or to have access to your energy or life. Some people are allowed only in the shallow end where they can’t do too much splashing. You can allow those you choose to come into the deep end with you. Some of the people you invite into the deep end won’t pass the swimming test and won’t make it past the rope. Some of the people you meet won’t be allowed in the pool at all. They can come in the yard but they will have to stay up on the deck!

Your pool needs proper maintenance; you need to clean the filter, clean your floats, scoop out the dirt and give it some chlorine to keep the water fresh. You have to clean out your life too.

A pool only holds so much water; we can only hold so much in our life. Sometimes if we want to take on someone or something new we have to let go of something old. Only so many people and so many toys will fit.

People come into our lives for a particular reason at a particular time. They come into our lives to teach us something, to provide nourishment that we need. We are in their lives for the same reasons. Just like little arm floaters for children when those lessons are learned the relationship is over. The relationship can end painfully, amicably, or it can just drift off to the other end of the pool. We just can’t fit everything and everyone in the pool at the same time.

Think about your pool. Is it time for a clean-up? Is everyone at a safe depth? Are there people you want to invite in? Are there people that pee in your pool?

It is especially difficult to control your pool around those you work with. When someone hears you are having a pool party there will always be someone wanting an invite that you don’t like or even know. It is essential that you control who gets in the pool but how do you do that? Perhaps you are very careful to only invite those that you know and trust. Maybe you throw a big party and invite everyone. Then you can go back and decide who was too loud, who drank too much, who ate too much, who hogged all the rafts, who made ‘bubbles’ in your pool!

Yes, having a pool can be difficult and a lot of work, but it can also be a great deal of fun.

Having a happy life can be even more difficult, more work but it can also be so much fun and so very much worth the effort!

It is your pool and your life.  You control who gets to swim!

I hope you all have a great, happy and safe Memorial Day Weekend!