It’s your Choice; what will you do?

We all have choices to make every day; the question is what choices will you make?

When we go to work we can choose to be productive or lazy, we can choose to do the best job we can or we can choose to just get by.

If you are a supervisor you can choose to take an employee under your wing, train and develop them or you can choose to fire them if they will take too much of your time.

You can choose to put your career first; yourself first or you can choose to put your family first.

You can choose the approach of what will the world do for you or what will you do for the world. You can choose to do for others or you can choose to wait for others to do for you.

You can choose right now or what’s right for now. Will you choose to be part of the problem or part of the solution?

A story to ponder:

At a fundraising dinner for a school that serves children with learning disabilities, the father of one of the students delivered a speech that would never be forgotten by all who attended. After extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he offered a question:

‘When not interfered with by outside influences, everything nature does, is done with perfection.
Yet my son, Shay, cannot learn things as other children do. He cannot understand things as other children do. Where is the natural order of things in my son?’

The audience was stilled by the query.

The father continued. ‘I believe that when a child like Shay, who was mentally and physically disabled comes into the world, an opportunity to realize true human nature presents itself, and it comes in the way other people treat that child.’

Then he told the following story:

Shay and I had walked past a park where some boys Shay knew were playing baseball. Shay asked, ‘Do you think they’ll let me play?’ I knew that most of the boys would not want someone like Shay on their team, but as a father I also understood that if my son were allowed to play, it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to be accepted by others in spite of his handicaps.

I approached one of the boys on the field and asked (not expecting much) if Shay could play. The boy looked around for guidance and said, ‘We’re losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we’ll try to put him in to bat in the ninth inning.’

Shay struggled over to the team’s bench and, with a broad smile, put on a team shirt. I watched with a small tear in my eye and warmth in my heart. The boys saw my joy at my son being accepted.

In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shay’s team scored a few runs but was still behind by three.

In the top of the ninth inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no hits came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game and on the field, grinning from ear to ear as I waved to him from the stands.

In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay’s team scored again.

Now, with two outs and the bases loaded, the potential winning run was on base and Shay was scheduled to be next at bat.

At this juncture, do the others let Shay bat and give away their chance to win the game?

Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all but impossible because Shay didn’t even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with the ball.

However, as Shay stepped up to the plate, the pitcher, recognizing that the other team was putting winning aside for this moment in Shay’s life, moved in a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least make contact. The first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed.

The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shay.
As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a slow ground ball right back to the pitcher.
The game would now be over.

The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman. Shay would have been out and that would have been the end of the game.
Instead, the pitcher threw the ball right over the first baseman’s head, out of reach of all team mates.

Everyone from the stands and both teams started yelling, ‘Shay, run to first! Run to first!’

Never in his life had Shay ever run that far, but he made it to first base. He scampered down the baseline, wide-eyed and startled.

Everyone yelled, ‘Run to second, run to second!’ Catching his breath, Shay awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and struggling to make it to the base.

By the time Shay rounded towards second base, the right fielder had the ball and he now had his first chance to be the hero for his team. He could have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag, but he understood the pitcher’s intentions so he, too, intentionally threw the ball high and far over the third-baseman’s head.

Shay ran toward third base deliriously as the runners ahead of him circled the bases toward home.

All were screaming, ‘Shay, Shay, Shay, all the Way Shay’

Shay reached third base because the opposing shortstop ran to help him by turning him in the direction of third base, and shouted, ‘Run to third! Shay, run to third!’

As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams, and the spectators, were on their feet screaming, ‘Shay, run home! Run home!’

Shay ran to home, stepped on the plate, and was cheered as the hero who hit the grand slam and won the game for his team

‘That day’, said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, ‘the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into this world’.

Shay didn’t make it to another summer. He died that winter, having never forgotten being the hero and making me so happy and coming home and seeing his Mother tearfully embrace her little hero of the day!

We all have thousands of opportunities, choices, every single day to help realize the ‘natural order of things.’

So many seemingly trivial interactions between two people present us with a choice:

Do we pass along a little spark of love and humanity or do we pass up those opportunities and leave the world a little bit colder in the process? You have a choice.

A wise man once said every society is judged by how it treats it’s least fortunate amongst them.

Not everyone will have an opportunity as glorious and special as this one to make a choice. However, you do have a choice everyday to do the right thing; to make an impact on someone’s life.

It’s your Choice; what will you do?

Road Block Ahead. Detour or Proceed With Caution?

I recently received this question:

“What do you recommend as far as developing a direct report that is constantly looking at what is wrong instead of seeing the progress. This is my road block at work!!”

I am certain we have all experienced this road block at one time or another in our careers no matter what line of work you are in. To take a detour only avoids the issue, takes you out of your way and postpones you getting where you want to go and what you want to achieve; having a solid cohesive functioning team. There can be dangers if you proceed with caution but it is the fastest most direct path to your goal. To solve the problem I would first suggest the 2×4 Plan A approach. Get a 2×4; you can pick one up at your local home improvement store. Grab the 2×4 as you would a bat. Ensure the direct report is standing within 4 feet of you. Swing, and swing hard! If for some reason your H.R. Department is opposed to this approach you might want to proceed to Plan B.

Plan B. I would recommend the following steps; Evaluate, Plan Ahead, Discuss, Resolve, Give Support and Always Follow-Up.

Evaluate. You first need to evaluate the current and potential contributions of the employee to the organization. Are they a valued employee for their productivity and knowledge but their negativity gets in the way or holds them back? If so you need to work to help them change their mindset. If they are just plain negative, a cancer to the rest of the organization, then maybe you need to work on an exit strategy.

Plan Ahead. You need to plan and schedule a private meeting with the individual. Give them about a weeks’ notice. Tell them you want to discuss ways that you can improve the workplace and that you would appreciate their input and suggestions.

Discuss. You never know what is going on in a person’s life until you sit down and discuss it with them. Perhaps they are struggling for some reason personally which is distracting them at work. Often time’s people will take out their frustrations at work, even though we know this is inappropriate. Leave your personal business outside is often easier said than done. Perhaps they don’t feel valued at work and this is causing their negativity. Maybe they feel under-utilized and unchallenged at work and this is causing them to not perform to their potential. Ask for their feedback, ideas and suggestions to improve the workplace which in turn will improve their performance.

Resolve. You need to have an open mind and really listen to and hear their concerns. If it is a home issue you can suggest places they can go or people they can talk with for help and support. If they don’t feel valued you can discuss all the positive things they have contributed, support their efforts and thank them. If they don’t feel challenged you can give them a new or different assignment that will give them more opportunities. If they have given you suggestions either explain the reasons that you cannot implement them, or take them under consideration as possibilities. Never just dismiss their ideas.

Give Support. Give them the support they need to be a positive influence on others and to perform to the best of their ability. Often time’s people focus on the negatives and on what is wrong because they don’t feel that they are being supported. Children sometimes act out just to get attention. Employees do the same thing! Support the fact and show your appreciation for all that they shared with you.

Always Follow-Up. Schedule a follow-up meeting to discuss their performance and to discuss and evaluate the improvement you have seen. This is essential if you want to continue seeing an improvement. If you don’t follow-up, the employee will easily think it was all just talk; they will feel foolish, or feel that you don’t really have a sincere interest in them or their performance.

Our employees, associates, teams just want to feel appreciated and valued, and to know that they are making a contribution to the organization.

Sometimes acting out is nothing more than a cry for attention. Give them the attention they need and deserve!

If this doesn’t work go back to the 2×4 Plan A!!

Remember that a detour can waste your time and delay your success and only avoids the issue. You must deal with negativity with deliberate head-on caution!

Please use the comment section below to share with our readers.

Have you experienced such a Road Block in your career?

What was the situation and how did you handle it?

Would you have done something differently?

What advice would you give to those in a Road Block situation?